I am a 25 year old woman, and I feel like i’m glued to my family. I am independant and own my own home etc, but I feel as though my Family always seem to know my business. I work with my sister who knows my friends etc. She always seems to invite them to places, and befriend them etc and my Parents find out what I do/who i’m with etc to an extent that they don’t want to call me, come to my house etc because they know everything about me. My sister is dominant. Everyone talks about “Kate” – “Oh Kate did this today..”, “Have you heard about Kate?” and when your in company, they always talk directly to Kate and never to me. If I don’t call or anything, they don’t seem particularlu bothered because they want me to call them. I don’t know I feel glued to my family and they seem to know everything about me and talk about how wonderful Kate is and her achievements and it makes me sad. It makes me feel so inadequate. Talking to them about it seems petulent and in any event, when I do talk to them all I get is “it’s you.. it’s not us” as if it’s an us against me mentality.
What can I do?
Also, if I express an opinion – i’m always wrong. Nothing I say is correct, and if I try and stand firm or stand my ground – they get angry and make it seem as if I am an agitator or aggressive. I do seem that way sometimes, but it’s because I am angry but I can’t tell them that because “Oh Carmen, stop getting angry!” etc.
