He has a healthy social life, with his friends from his job; he told me that before he met me he would be out with them every weekend.
I don’t want them to feel like I’m taking him away, because I have met his friends and they’re wonderful, but the trouble is my boyfriend and I hardly get to spend time with one another as it is because of his job.
He got a new position, which allows us to only see each other for a brief period during the week when/if he comes over to see me before work, and *maybe* on the weekends. If his friends haven’t invited him somewhere first.
We’re several years apart in age (I’m almost 19 while he’s 25), but we’re basically the same when it comes to what stage we’re at in life and so on. He’s finishing up school and aiming for a higher business position at his job, and I already have all my goals in place as well.
The problem is, I’ve never really been a social butterfly. I’ve always been mature for my age (both a blessing and a curse), and in high school I found it hard to be able to stay relatable to people my age for very long.
As a result, I hardly got asked to hang out, and usually had to almost invite myself places if I wanted to go anywhere with someone.
It always felt like no one wanted me around because I wasn’t the fun, talkative type that they all were.
Now that I’m in college, I feel a bit more comfortable with myself and who I am, but I still don’t have the social life that’d I’d like to have. I’ve been trying recently, by asking a few classmates if they want to go to the beach (we plan to go in June), and catching up with old classmates and making a date out of it, but it’s not happening fast enough for me.
It sort of hurts whenever my boyfriend’s friends call him up when we’re out together (like yesterday for instance), and ask if he wants to come over and hang out. He usually doesn’t, but I wish I had friends that did that.
Sometimes I even lie to him about what I have planned, if he’s already told me that he’s going to a friend’s house that night because I don’t want to seem like I don’t have a life.
I know I could hang out with him and his friends, but I don’t know how awkward it would be for me. I’ve done it a couple of times, and haven’t had an issue, but I think it’s mostly just the fact that when we see each other I just want to see *him*, not him with his friends.
I just don’t want to seem clingy. But it’s hard not to be a little sad when I’m sitting at home, while he’s out with friends, not really thinking about me at the time.
