I am in love with this guy. I have been dating a guy for quite a while now and he is staying with a woman who is 20years older than him, they have a relationship together. She cooks, cleans, and does everything for him and he works at 2 jobs to pay all the bills and she stays with him at his house, they do not have any kids together but she does have 2 kids with her ex husband but he told me that he is with her because they are going to get married so he can get his papers so he can become legal. He said she knows that this is a business deal but if it is just a business deal why does he have sex with her? What makes me so sick to my stomach is that he has sex with her and me. Last month I was pregnant with his child and when I told him about it he said he didn’t give a dammn about his papers and is going to leave the lady he is living with but I told him I wasn’t comfortable with the fact about bringing a child into this mess we have created. I spent the whole week at his house because that lady went to go visit family out of town. He treated me like a princess and even told me for the first time that he was in love with me. He says that he would leave her and be with me forever if I promised to be with him always and forever
UPDATE AND HELP NEEDED::!:: He really wanted the baby but I am not ready for it so he agreed with my decision and took me to get an abortion. Now, I told him that I don’t want to continue our relationship because I don’t want to be his little secret. Well, he said that he really does not care about his paper and is going to tell that lady he doesn’t want a relationship with her or does not want to get his papers from her. But the thing is she does not work because she has a special needs child who is very hard to deal with. So he is the only one that works 2 jobs and helps her. But he has made his decision to fix his life, he doesn’t want to be with her because he said there is no love between them. But he said he is going to tell her that he is moving out and wants to seperate or if she wants he can help her out for 4-5 months until she finds a job and help with her son but they will move into a 2bedroom apartment until she does find help and a job. I am 100% positive that he is telling me the truth but what I want to know is do you think it is okay for her to stay with him for 4-5 but in seperate rooms? he said like roommates and he said if I think he is lying i can come visit him anytime anyday when she is home or when she is not home, it doesn’t matter. He said I can even live with him if I want and he will just give her money to support herself and her kid for about a good 4 months. But I don’t want to move in with anybody right now.
So is it normal for them to stay together?
Is it normal for him to make the decision to give her his new car and all the furniture and everything and him walk away with nothing?
