Open Question: Should I get married right now?

I met this guy named Yusuf. He’s very, very handsome which causes a problem. I hate when my mom says this. “Start learning to share him.” She said this to my older sisters when they were getting married as well to handsome men. My older sisters have had no problems (Alhumdhulilah) with their marriages. Yusuf and I go to the same school. He is studying Business and I am trying to become an Anesthesiologist i’A. We bump into each other all the time. Literally. I almost spilled hot coffee all over his beautiful suit. He caught my arm to prevent me from dropping my coffee, but soon removed his hands because we’re Muslim (I wear a scarf) and I am not allowed to touch any man apart from my husband. Yusuf was the first man, (excluding my brother, father, and close cousins) that I had ever touched before in my life. I felt so guilty. He apologized and so did I. The next day, he saw me again and we just smiled at each other. I was sitting on the grass and he asked if he could join me. I was unsure because this is not really allowed in my religion, but I gave him a chance. He sat down and we talked about each others career plans, families, and just our interests. His father owns a business in the Middle East (like my father) and his mother is a stay-at-home mom. He has six brothers m’A and two sisters. I have one brother and my mother is also a stay-at-home mom because my father makes quite enough like Yusuf’s dad (Alhumdhulilah). I have met his brothers, but not his sisters because they live in Egypt right now. His sister Maryam is very sweet and we have been on video chat with each other. Yusuf is such a wonderul man m’A. He’s religious and smart and his personality is beyond amazing. The only problem is our cultures. I don’t understand Arabic one tiny bit. My father is Egyptian but my mother is Afghan and I know Pashto and Farsi much more than Arabic. Yusuf said that there’s no need for me to change for anybody and that if I wanted, he could teach me Arabic and I could teach him Pashto and Farsi. I’m okay with that. In fact, I love that idea. I don’t want to have to give up my beautiful culture just because I’m going to get married. I just want to know If I should be getting married now. I’m 21 years old. Yusuf is 22. My mom just thinks that all men, Arab men to be specific, are womanizers. Once they get what they want, they leave. I don’t think of all men like this. Most men respect women, but my mom just finds it hard to believe. She feels that his handsomeness will cause obstacles in our relationship. She thinks that he’s just another one fo those Arabs. I’m just lost. I love my mother and my father. I’ve told my father that I met him and he was happy. He wants me to embrace his culture as well. My father has learned so much about our culture, even the languages, I just think it’s fair to return the favor. I told my brother (28 years old) and he said “why are you talking to boys anyway?” -___- That’s not the point. I’ve waited 21 years in my life. I want to get married, have kids, raise them, teach them, etc. I want to have a family. Any advice?

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